Do you agree with this? Are you a pleaser (sorry, this word does not exist in dictionary. It is a new term given by me, heh!) who is so busy pleasing other that you don't have a time for yourself?
So here's the question? You are pleasing others but are you please and happy with yourself?
Sometimes, people are trying so hard to please people so that they can be accepted, but to be honest, I doubt they are happy and satisfied with themselves at the end of the day. You don't find the satisfaction with yourselves as you were busy satisfying other.
In other words, YOU ARE NOT BEING YOURSELF. You are being someone like, hmm, how do I put it ... hollow. YES, HOLLOW! THAT'S THE WORD. It's like you don't have a life for yourself. You are like a shell with nothing inside. You are living your life according to people's opinion. You are constantly changing yourself (mind, clothing, appearance, etc) to please people. You dare not say no to the people fearing that they might not like you.
Seriously, I pity these type of people. They have low self esteem or worse, none at all. They are not happy with themselves. They are constantly finding ways to be accepted into social circle. One word, PATHETIC.
To be honest, I too used to be a pathetic joker who always finding ways to please other, two or three years back. I was never satisfied with myself. I always feared, what if, one day... What if. I started questioning myself often, am I really happy with myself? I did an inner soul search, asked myself, what I want to do? *the journey to the truth is being omitted*
Yes, I am definitely happier now. Life is much better and more awesome now. I am living being me.
I was not the only one. Yours truly has a friend like this. I am omitting the friend's name in order to protect her identity. Her story is much more pathetic (and sadder) than me. She would do anything, technically to make people; to please them. She would make up stories, do whatevercrapnonsensical to be accepted, to get sympathy from people. She would lie over and again. She was not being herself. She was being the person other people see in her.
I would say this kind of people are really insecure. They need someone to assure them that they don't have to do all these meaningless shits everyday. Next time if you see someone who was trying so hard to pleasing others, making other happy, instead of taking advantage of them, give them a hug or a talk or whatsoever thing you can think of, tell them that they don't have to try so hard to be accepted. Ask them to be themselves. If you are true friend enough, I believe you would not want to see your friend to be sad, am I right?
"All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, and I promise you something great will come of it."
Signing Off.
Sometimes, people are trying so hard to please people so that they can be accepted, but to be honest, I doubt they are happy and satisfied with themselves at the end of the day. You don't find the satisfaction with yourselves as you were busy satisfying other.
In other words, YOU ARE NOT BEING YOURSELF. You are being someone like, hmm, how do I put it ... hollow. YES, HOLLOW! THAT'S THE WORD. It's like you don't have a life for yourself. You are like a shell with nothing inside. You are living your life according to people's opinion. You are constantly changing yourself (mind, clothing, appearance, etc) to please people. You dare not say no to the people fearing that they might not like you.
Seriously, I pity these type of people. They have low self esteem or worse, none at all. They are not happy with themselves. They are constantly finding ways to be accepted into social circle. One word, PATHETIC.
To be honest, I too used to be a pathetic joker who always finding ways to please other, two or three years back. I was never satisfied with myself. I always feared, what if, one day... What if. I started questioning myself often, am I really happy with myself? I did an inner soul search, asked myself, what I want to do? *the journey to the truth is being omitted*
Yes, I am definitely happier now. Life is much better and more awesome now. I am living being me.
I was not the only one. Yours truly has a friend like this. I am omitting the friend's name in order to protect her identity. Her story is much more pathetic (and sadder) than me. She would do anything, technically to make people; to please them. She would make up stories, do whatevercrapnonsensical to be accepted, to get sympathy from people. She would lie over and again. She was not being herself. She was being the person other people see in her.
I would say this kind of people are really insecure. They need someone to assure them that they don't have to do all these meaningless shits everyday. Next time if you see someone who was trying so hard to pleasing others, making other happy, instead of taking advantage of them, give them a hug or a talk or whatsoever thing you can think of, tell them that they don't have to try so hard to be accepted. Ask them to be themselves. If you are true friend enough, I believe you would not want to see your friend to be sad, am I right?
"All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, and I promise you something great will come of it."
Signing Off.